When I understood the theory of projections, it was like a new light shown on the shadow side of life. The things or persons that I had antipathy for were the very things or character traits that I had not recognized myself. Examples would be: not wanting to conform to “micky mouse” rules or not liking people who were constantly wrapped up in thinking and expressing characteristics about themselves. Gradually recognizing these same tendencies in myself at times, I could begin to own them. This required a process that was not easy and could take a good amount of time. With God’s compassion I would be able to forgive myself and that could lead to an understanding and empathy for others who were working through the same issues. These feelings were not to excuse myself or others behavior but they could bring me to a new awareness.
Now living in a time of division of “us” and “them” maybe this insight could act as a bridge for coming together. Scapegoating and fear of the other could possibly give way to some common ground from which we might proceed. Would that it could propel us to some new approaches in our families, communities and in our concern for the planet, our common home.
Does the theory of “projection” ring true to your experience?
Have you been able to find common ground with “the others” in your life?
How has Jesus’ acceptance of the marginalized influenced your behavior?
O God, help me see your presence in those who annoy me.