When we see and hear of suffering around the world, we can often feel a sense of
hopelessness and thoughts of “what can be done?” One group seeks revenge on another
group, and that group responds with more acts of revenge greater than what was shown to
them. It sets up a pattern of escalation.
How do we keep from falling into the same trap in our personal relationships? We might look
for an answer that the Dalai Lama has shown in his life. Even though the Chinese persecute
his people in many horrible ways, he still exudes a spirit of happiness and joy. He says that his
stance is the fruit of his meditation. He is able to look with compassion on those who are
oppressed and even have compassion for the oppressors. While we often feel powerless in
meeting any crisis that the world is facing, a stand of compassion might lead to a way of
arriving at a change of heart. This can also be true in our relationships and the polarization
we might be experiencing with our families, friends, and acquaintances. By recalling some of
the experiences that the opposing person has had to face, we can become more aware of the
position that person is now taking. This leads us to compassion for him or her. This is the
way that God, who is the source of all compassion and love, sees and understands the
differences among his people.
- Have you become aware of the dynamic that is taking place when revenge escalates?
- How have you learned to deescalate tensions among family members and others?
- Does compassion for the other lead you to becoming a peacemaker?
O God, help me access the compassion you have for all of your creation.